Support Time Ep1. Become Beautiful

身為一個聯想力很好的提案者
我總是會有一些新點子

最近練習寫一些主題討論的文章
在一連寫了十多篇之後
想新的主題變得有點難度了
於是我也開始想新企畫

我自己喜歡聽啟點的老師們
嘗試解決讀者遇到的困境
也喜歡看”谷阿莫爽就發”頻道
用邏輯思考解析問題
最近也開始聽馬克信箱

於是我便想
我可不可以也就這些來信素材
提出獨自的見解呢

也許從人們切身的故事著手
讀者們也會比較有共鳴感

於是新系列”Support time”
就這樣誕生啦!

一邊看YT休閒
一邊當成寫作素材
還一邊練習英文寫作
最近常常在一魚多吃!

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Support time 第一集 變漂亮

這封信是來自於一個
對自己容貌不滿意的女孩
她想要做整型手術
但諮詢媽媽以及伴侶之後
發現她們都不同意
所以她覺得很想要
有人了解她的感受
能夠支持她的想法

我想現在很多人有容貌焦慮
整形手術是一種解決方案
而調整心態或許也能幫助自己
(還能少受點苦)

在這個案例中
這個女生從小就從周遭的人們
得到了許多關於容貌的負面回饋
人們會拿她和她的姊妹作比較
而她希望自己能跟姊妹們一樣好看

然而
就如剛剛提到的
她的媽媽和伴侶
都不希望她去做整形手術

所以現在這個女生
面臨的問題是什麼?
要怎麼做才能讓她感覺更好?

首先
自我表達是很重要的
因為每個人對於這個世界
都有不同的體驗
我們也都有不同的生長環境
以及對每件事情的觀點

所以當我們有不同的意見時
並不是誰對誰錯
而是我們從不同的觀點在看事情
這時候溝通和分享看法就很重要了

如果這女生
能夠跟她在乎的家人及伴侶
分享更多自己的感受
以及過往在意的事件經驗
並且也聆聽
家人和伴侶為何反對整型
試著一起把這些優缺點
整理在一起
彼此都理解之後
那是不是就能一起做出好的決定
不管最後是要往哪走

不過我也知道
要一起做決定不是件容易的事情
尤其是和相處多年的家人或伴侶
有時就是會感到情緒上過不去
這是來自於多年建立起來的相處模式
通常很難一下就改變

所以如果你可以靠自己的力量
和親密的人順利溝通的話
那當然是最好的
但如果覺得很有難度
也可以找伴侶諮商師來協助
降低對話的難度

以上是我的個人觀點
想看谷阿莫原片的人請參考以下連結

莫名其妙EP182
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSMWOz-pD9c

–English version–

Support time ep.1 Become Beautiful

This letter is from a girl who is anxious about her face. She wanted to receive plastic surgery, but her family and partner didn’t support her, so she desired support and understanding.

Many people experience appearance anxiety nowadays. Plastic surgery is one solution for it, and adjusting one’s mindset is another way to address it.

In this case, the girl had received a lot of negative feedback about her looks. People often compared her to her sisters, and she wanted to be as beautiful as them. However, her mother and partner didn’t take her concerns as seriously; they thought the plastic surgeries were unnecessary.

So what is the problem, and how can she feel better?

Firstly, expressing oneself more is very important. Everybody has different growth experiences and viewpoints, so if there are disagreements, it’s not about who is right or wrong; it’s just a matter of different perspectives.

In this case, the girl might share more of her feelings and experiences with the people she cares about and listen to them, trying to understand why they disagree with her. If they can consider all the pros and cons together, they might come to a mutual understanding.

In conclusion, whether or not to undergo plastic surgery is not the main point here. What she wanted was support from her family and partner. If they can reach an agreement, they can decide together what to do. However, for many people, having such conversations without emotional tension can be challenging due to long-established relationship patterns. Thus, if she can manage it on her own, that’s great. But if it’s too difficult, a couples counselor can help facilitate the discussion.