Support time 第三集 職涯規劃
這封信是來自於一個
在餐飲業工作的網友
他說在餐飲業工作是份體力活
但自己已經有點年紀了
覺得這份工作可能做不長久
在跟上司提說要轉管理職後
上司幫他換了職位
但還是得要負責現場的工作
所以他辭職想找其他工作
由於辛苦工作了很久
所以他想先休息一陣子
再開始找新工作
但就在這休息期間
他的父母對他的未來感到憂慮
常常在家叨唸他
讓他感到煩躁
明明自己已經跟父母說過
自己存了一筆錢
不用擔心這陣子的開支
但父母還是常碎念
所以他甚至想說:
你們生小孩
就是為了讓他工作一輩子嗎?
我難道不能休息一陣子嗎?
我可以了解這位網友的看法
餐飲業的確是體力活
很多人對這份工作敬而遠之
他提到了跟職涯規劃有關的困擾
我想我們可以試著來討論看看
首先
他提到了他已經有點年紀
認為體力活的工作做不長久
我想這點很可能是對的
而且他也做了很好的應對:
找主管談升遷
要求換到管理職
雖然後來他是升職了
但還是要參與現場工作
我不確定他在提升遷要求時
是否有傳達出自己真正在意的點
是不想再做體力活
也許主管誤解了他的真正需求
或是這公司確實沒有辦法滿足他的需求
如果是後者的話
那他後來決定提離職
在其他公司尋找機會
就是很好的決定
而他發現了自己的身心疲憊
想要休息一陣子
這也是很好的覺察和應對
有時候停一下
才有時間思考
和決定出更適合的方向
在我們的社會中
有時會過度強調努力
而忽略了選擇的重要
人們試著把事情做好
但卻未花足夠的時間做事前確認
自己是不是在做對的事情
適合自己的事情
另外對於父母的擔憂和嘮叨
我時常看到人們只專注在對方的言詞
並且讓自己
因為這些沒有妥善表達的言詞而受傷
但其實如果自己足夠成熟
就能把焦點從言語移開
注意到言外之意是什麼
通常嘮叨顯示的是擔憂的情緒
如果我們能解決這些情緒
就有機會停止言語上的干擾
而要解決這些情緒
需要的是良好的溝通
一份仔細思考過的未來計畫
或許很有幫助
然而
要對未來做規劃
了解自己的需求是第一步
做什麼事情能讓自己獲得能量
而什麼事情會磨損自己
自我覺察並不是生來就會的
而且也有很多人
一輩子都不懂得這件事
就這樣默默地忍受磨損
或是追求其他人所追求的成功
然而成功了之後才發現
自己並不享受這些
社會上其他人所定義的成功
所以回到第一步
看到自己的需求是什麼
定義出自己的成功
才有辦法朝對的方向前進
而有時候我們所享受的
也不是那遠在未來的終點
而是此時此刻
在路上往前走的感受
題目參考來源:
活著難道就是為了一直工作嗎？活著的意義究竟是什麼…｜莫名其妙EP162
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tv5cF1I6T-I&t=1221s
–English version–
Support Time Ep3: Career Planning
This letter is from a person who worked in a restaurant. Working in a restaurant is a physically demanding job, and he didn’t think this job was sustainable as he got older.
He asked his boss to promote him to a managerial position, but even in that role, he still had to do physical work, so he quit and wanted to find another job.
After many years of hard work, he wanted to take a few months off to rest. However, his parents were worried and urged him to get a job. This made him upset, and he thought, “Did you have a child to make him work forever? Can’t I take a rest?”
I can see his point; working in a restaurant is physically demanding, and many people don’t want to do it. The writer’s worries were about career planning, and we can try to discuss it.
Firstly, the writer mentioned that a physically demanding job wasn’t sustainable as he got older. He was probably right and made a good move by asking his boss for a promotion to a managerial position. Although he actually got promoted, he still had to do physically demanding work.
I’m not sure if he expressed his needs clearly, that he didn’t want to do physically demanding work. Maybe his boss didn’t understand, or his company couldn’t satisfy his need. If the latter was true, then his decision to quit was a good choice.
Furthermore, he noticed he was exhausted at that time and wanted to take a break, which was also a good awareness and a good decision. Sometimes people need to stop so they have time to think and make better decisions.
In our society, sometimes people over-emphasize the importance of effort and ignore the importance of making good choices. They just try to do things right but don’t spend enough time ensuring they’re doing the right thing, or the suitable thing for themselves.
On the other hand, regarding his parents’ worries and murmuring, I often see people focus on the words others say and get hurt by them. But actually, if we’re mature enough, we can remove our focus from those words and notice what people really want to say.
Usually, murmuring means people have worries. If we can address this emotion, the murmuring will stop. To address this emotion, we need good communication, and a well-thought-out plan may help.
However, if we want to make a future plan, the first step is knowing our own needs. What makes us feel energized? And what makes us feel drained?
Self-awareness is not something we are born with, and many people don’t notice this their whole life. They bear frustrations in silence or chase the success that others are chasing. And if they succeed, they find that they can’t enjoy the success defined by others.
So, turn back to the first step. What are our own needs? Trying to define our own success is the only way to move in the right direction. And sometimes, what we enjoy is not the goal in the future but the sense that we are walking toward our goal.