Support time 第四集 另一半在想什麼
這封信來自一對交往中情侶的女方
這對情侶的經濟狀況都不錯
但對金錢的使用觀念差異很大
舉例來說
有一次兩人出去玩
跟街上小販買了個玩具
但走到另一攤發現
一樣的玩具賣得更便宜
價格的差異並不是很大
但男方跑回去跟對方理論要退差價
女方對此感到有點丟臉
不懂為何男友要為了一點小錢計較
另外有次男方買項鍊
給女方當禮物
當他們結帳時
男生試圖跟店員殺價
最後成功殺到了一點點
而這也讓女生覺得很害躁
她詢問了男友原因
男友的回答是
我不介意送你昂貴的禮物
但是我會在意付給店家的錢
第三個案例是
兩人去一間自助吧餐廳吃飯
女方想吃的一樣菜被拿完了
她跟男友說算了沒關係
吃其他東西也很飽了
但男友堅持跟服務生抱怨
認為確保每樣餐點都在檯面上
是餐廳的責任
否則就是損害顧客的權益
首先大家可以觀察到的是
這兩人對金錢的價值觀不太一樣
男生對於公平或權益很重視
不管是多小的金額都一樣
而女生比較不喜歡斤斤計較
傾向只注重重要的事
我最近在課堂上學到了
關於領導者和經理人的不同人格特質
這對情侶的女方像是領導者
(實際上也的確在經營自己的事業)
擅長做決定但沒有時間關心每個細節
而男生像是經理人
很注重資源的有效利用
並且不喜歡任何浪費
我希望這篇文章
能對讀者起到幫助
了解每個人有不同的特質
不要因此覺得困惑
想著是對方有病還是自己錯了!
題目參考來源:
覺得被騙！同條街上賣同個商品竟比別人貴20元！20元的虧你吃嗎？｜莫名其妙EP171
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=It_sqADUAxY&t=1612s
–English version–
Support Time Ep4: What is My Partner Thinking
This letter comes from the female partner of a couple in a relationship. This couple is financially well-off, but they have very different views on how to use money.
For example, one time they went out together and bought a toy from a street vendor. Later, they found another vendor selling the same toy at a lower price. The difference in price wasn’t significant, but the male partner went back to argue with the vendor who sold them the toy. The female partner felt very embarrassed by this; she didn’t understand why her boyfriend cared so much about a little money.
On another occasion, her boyfriend bought an expensive necklace as a gift for her. When they were paying, he tried haggling with the shop clerk. The female partner felt embarrassed again.
Her boyfriend explained that he didn’t mind giving an expensive gift to his girlfriend, but he cared about the money he paid to the store, even if it was just a small difference in price.
The third example is when they went to a buffet. They wanted to eat one particular dish, but it was all gone. The female partner thought they could eat other food and told her boyfriend that she didn’t need that dish. But her boyfriend insisted on asking the clerk to refill it. This made the female partner really confused because she had already told her boyfriend she didn’t need that dish and was satisfied with the other food. However, the male partner thought the restaurant should maintain every dish on the table; otherwise, it was harming customer rights.
I think the first thing everybody can see is the different views on how to use money between this couple. The male partner cares about fairness or his rights, no matter how small the amount of money is. In contrast, the female partner doesn’t like to be meticulous about everything; she prefers to focus only on important things.
I recently learned about the different personality traits of a leader and a manager. The female partner of this couple is like a leader, who is good at making decisions and doesn’t have time to care about every detail. On the other hand, the male partner is like a manager; when he receives a task, he pays attention to how to use resources efficiently and doesn’t like any waste.
So, I hope this article can help you understand different people and not feel confused about why they think so differently!