左京研討會第三篇~
關於害羞
身為一個超內向的人
我應該要對害羞很有研究
根據我的觀察
應該有半數以上的人都是內向者
但內向的人彼此也有很大的不同
雖然內向的人通常不多話
但害羞並不等於不擅社交
社交技巧是可以學習培養的
而害羞卻是一種個人特質
說起來可能令人驚訝
一個害羞但成熟的人
可能很擅長聊天
並且看起來像是個社交花蝴蝶
另一方面來說
內向的人可能在某些方面
比其他人更加大膽
例如在網路上發表文章或意見
準備一場令人印象深刻的演講
或是當個Youtuber!
以我個人來說
我傾向與人保持距離
但如果在某些情況下
我被迫和另一個人相處
而且無處可逃的話
(例如分組被分在一起)
我反而能友善的和對方交談
也很擅長引導和傾聽
但前提是無處可逃XD
有時害羞被視為一種負向特質
而且內向者確實也因此
在生命的過程中錯失了不知多少機會
但從正向的角度來看
害羞也讓我們得以避免許多外界來的干擾
可以專注在內在世界
或是學習新技能上面
害羞的人通常更率直且值得信任
但正如我一開始所說的
內向者之間彼此也有很大的不同
最後
雖然要改變個人特質幾乎是不可能的
但我們可以改變看待事情的角度
這就足以造就許多不同
–English version–
About Shyness
As a completely introverted person, I have studied shyness extensively. From my observations, more than half of the people tend to be shy, but they are very different from each other. Although shy people usually don’t talk a lot, shyness does not equate to poor social skills. Social skills can be learned and developed, while shyness is a personality trait.
Surprisingly, a shy adult can be very good at talking and may even seem like a social butterfly. On the other hand, shy people can be very bold in certain aspects, such as sharing their opinions on the internet, preparing an impressive speech, or even being a YouTuber!
Personally, I tend to keep my distance from people, but if I find myself next to someone with no chance to run away, I can become a kind person and a good listener.
Sometimes shyness is seen as a negative quality, and we do miss plenty of opportunities in our lives. However, if we focus on the positive side, shyness also prevents distractions from the environment, allowing us to concentrate on our inner world or on learning new skills.
Shy people are also often straightforward and trustworthy. However, as I mentioned before, shy individuals have many different characteristics.
All in all, although it is almost impossible to change our personalities, we can change our perspectives and make a difference in our lives.